What a masterful way to deliver a critical message! In my new book, Sexperienced: Guide for the Seasoned Woman Seeking New Possibilities , I talk about our juicy seasoned sensuality – using all five senses to remind, reinforce, and redefine ourselves as the sexy women (and men!) that we are. We love to look – and that’s a good thing! Looking at hot younger men is not only desirable, it’s a boon to our mental and physical health.

Looking refreshes our sexuality, lifts our mood, starts the dopamine flowing (hormone of desire and romance), makes us stand up straight with erect posture (no kidding!) and own our sexuality, and revs up a primal drive that defines who we are as women (in this case straight women, but my Lesbian friends have appreciated this ad, as well, from the sheer creativity and awe of the human body – female or male.)

One more thing. To the seasoned sexy women reading this: At Sex on the Porch I hear from women over and over again that men our age are only interested in looking at younger women. Stop the presses! When men look at younger women, they are participating in the same eros life force that attracts women to the men in this advertisement. It’s a part of who we are as human beings. Our brain is our most potent sex organ. What we think, and allow ourselves to enjoy, is the key ingredient to vibrant sexuality. We’re all hard wired to look, appreciate, and delight in sexy specimens at any age. Men take a lot of heat for looking, and commenting. Yes, men tend to be less subtle, and express the enjoyment outwardly. Nonetheless, our sense of sight is powerful for both sexes. Looking doesn’t mean that a man or woman wants to sleep with the observed. It’s simply another way of experiencing our sensuality (this time with our eyes) and participating in that vital life force of our sexuality.

Enjoy this YouTube treat, all my seasoned friends – men and women! It’s simply hot. And fun.

By the way, it was given to me by my colleague Melanie Davis, Ph.D. (www.honestexchange.com ), sex educator extraordinaire, and fellow member at the Consortium on Sex and Aging at Widener University.

Kind of makes you want to get an IPhone for the monthly eye candy, doesn’t it? I’ll be interested in your comments.

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We all like to be titillated. From time to time, we all need to escape, to pretend. Sometimes, the secret forbidden act of taking or being taken is so exciting in our brains, that it can arouse even the lowest libidos. It’s the time when we can be tortured, tied down, taken against our will, appear in outrageously sexy alluring clothes, tempt the begging servant, beg for mercy – all in our head, and no one knows! What fun! It happens universally, and no one ever knows.

What if we could share some of it, or all of it, so that others will “get off” with our fantasies, too.  Here’s the chance. These are short sequences. They can be read in 5-7 minutes. They must be written by a woman 50 or over, and they must INCLUDE a woman over 50.

The winner will win $50 and one month featured posting on my blogsite. Check out the rules, and send in your entry today. Email it to me (info@getasecondwind.com), Katherine Forsythe, and share your fantasy with us, so we can enjoy it, too. Entries will also be available to download after the contest, from this website. Have fun!