Building Your Titanium Rolodex: Amazing Relationships Late in Life was the title of my seminar last week at an upbeat retirement community in Oakland, California. Average age: 75. Biggest problem: how to find new relationships late in life. Online dating can be frustrating, humiliating, and downright dangerous.
I promised the attendees that I would publish the [...]
I’ve got Matchitis. Symptoms: extreme frustration, onset of clinical depression, self-esteem headed into the toilet, questioning of one’s sanity (i.e. why in the world am I doing this?) – juxtaposed to moments of excitement and anticipation over finding a prospect who actually seems relationship-able. That is, if he doesn’t fall off the face of the [...]
To clarify: there is no reason in the world that you can’t have great sex at midlife and beyond. Trust me on this one. Man or woman, rich or poor, thin or fat, it’s yours for the asking. I talk about it in the latest issue of 50+ Fabulous. Check it out and get up [...]
There you are at 61 years old. In bed with a new lover, a Match.com jewel. Who would have guessed after 28 years of marriage? You hardly feel ready, but the meter is ticking. Three dates and time for sex. Oh boy, there’s that big question to ask … who has the condom? WebMD and [...]
Men and sex ….kind of like asking for directions. Last week, in my workshop about sex at midlife plus, fifty men and women over the age of 60 discussed the changes in our attitude toward sex in the past century. How many women? Forty five. How many men? Do the math: five. After the workshop, [...]
Java Beach Café, on the edge of the sand dunes, San Francisco. 8 AM. To my left sits a round table with four men huddled together (football huddle revisited). Age best guess is around 60, maybe older. Hot topic of discussion: women and dating. My ears are huge and they have no idea that I [...]
The joy of sex at middle life and later life is this: At last, we can be ourselves in bed. What a concept… Sexy sex: it’s not just for former cheerleaders and retired football captains, anymore! Let’s exhale. It’s a wrap on proving and performance, finally – or at least it can be if we [...]
A thousand pieces of broken heart all over the sidewalk. I watched her turn away and step bravely into that dorm at Macalester College in St. Paul, Minnesota. By herself. A long way from Cincinnati. Not knowing anyone. Yep. It was officially over, the mama bear years. No tears allowed, yet. Just a big football [...]
Here’s the latest scoop on Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra: if you believe they will work, they will. Does that mean your sex life soars? No. Why? Because there’s more to good sex than being rock hard. Besides, only 10% of men over 50 renew their prescriptions. What’s up with that? Turns out the side effects [...]
Sweet Memories. I grew up on a sugar high. I know this because my birthday present from my friend-since-kindergarten arrived fedex yesterday. A giant basket overflowing with magnificent nothing-natural-about-it candy, the stuff we ate as kids. A flood of memories poured out of me. All those things that happened around the 12th year of my life. The pack [...]
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