My friend wasn’t kidding. The burger was orgasmic. Big, juicy, perfectly orchestrated, deliciously sensual, demanding my complete attention. The taste lingered delightfully on the palate after the first bite … ohhh yes. Very nice. This burger was the quintessential all-5-senses-on-board burger. She was right. Truly a sensual treat.
We were in Sonoma, California for the Sonoma Jazz Fest on our way to see John Fogerty, and treating ourselves to a delectable dinner at The Girl and The Fig. Most folks don’t order a burger at Girl and The Fig. It’s much more sophisticatedly creative than that. After all, this is Sonoma. Wine and cheese tasting is an art form here.
It didn’t matter. This was about pure pleasure. Extreme self pleasure* (ESP*) in fact. I was practicing my preaching from our Sex on the Porch events – testing this theory: as seasoned men and women, it’s time to invite extreme pleasure into your life at every opportunity. ESP does more to make your sexuality come alive than all the vitamins, anti-depressants, and therapy we can absorb. Treating yourself to the thing you love most tells yourself, “hey – I think you’re really cool. Let’s play and hang out together”. Note to self: guaranteed this is not what your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/sister/brother/child/therapist/doctor says is good for you.
A hamburger? Seriously? Wait – what about the calories? What about the nasty beef fat? What about how bad beef is for you? What about my clogged arteries? You’re talking about refined white flour in the roll? Besides, where are your vegetables? (I confess – I did order a salad with it – but that’s because I actually, really, honestly, love great vinaigrette. Even dipping bread in it, if I can.). But we digress, how about the french fries? – how do you rationalize them? OMG. Deep fried (bad) … potatoes (not good).
I could mention that you might not want to make a lifetime of eating amazingly juicy yummy hamburgers if you have a tendency for high cholesterol, or if you have had heart surgery, or if you are overweight, or if … (do I need to go on?), but I won’t. You already know that in spades. I’m here to tell you to break the rules.
ESP. Treat yourself every single day to what makes you happy, now! Not what should make you happy. Not what Oprah suggests. Not what AARP magazine says you need. Only you know what you need in your life. What makes you feel good? What makes you feel full of life every second? What makes you feel playful and fun? It’s about treating yourself the way you’d treat your most honored, favorite friend or lover – anyone who makes you come alive when you’re with them. Do that for yourself.
The lowly hamburger did it for me. Doesn’t have to be food, of course. Might be music. (By the way, our dessert following the burger was John Fogerty’s concert. Phase two of the pleasure trip – Proud Mary, Bad Moon Arising. What a night!). Might be getting into nature. For a dear friend of mine, it’s birding. Then, of course, there is the old fashioned orgasmic experience. But that’s a discussion for another day…
I have a sign on my desk that says: What ESP are you going to do for yourself today? No hamburgers today, 2 days after the fest. Instead, I’m taking a nice long nap before my meeting tonight. Ah, ESP. What’s yours? Click here to comment!
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Hi Kat,
Wow…what a great message! Thanks so much for sharing your extreme self pleasure story and encouraging us to add some ESP to our own life. As a busy and driven woman, I really need to remind myself to do this and you have inspired me! By the way that burger did sound over the top orgasmic:)
Debbie