Variety in sex is the spice of your bedroom! Mix it up, baby. After years in a relationship, creativity and excitement zing right out the door. Think of sex this way: If you ate the best steak in town (assuming you eat meat) every single night, you’d run, not walk, from the nearest steak. What to do? Order something else! Taste it. Test it. You’ll like it or you won’t. The next night, try something else. Same drill for sex. The good news is that your problem is THE most common complaint I hear, and the easiest fixable. There are three basic rules in good sex: communicate, communicate, communicate. Sit down with your partner, NOT when you are trying to be amorous, and tell him/her exactly how you feel. It’s NOT easy, I know. Together, come up with a “what would please you that we are not doing” list? NOTHING is off limits. Each of you answer back and forth, and make a list. Then, start down the list in any order. One idea: try strip poker. Get a deck of cards. Keep drawing 2 cards. The lowest card has to strip off a piece of clothing. When you get down to no clothes, keep drawing. The lowest card gets something done to them that the highest card wants to do … kiss, lick, suck, watch, or even read poetry! Enjoy!
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