Two questions:
1. Have you ever been attracted to him (or her)? If you hooked up with your brother or sister (metaphorically speaking), and you have decided that now you want to be attracted to him/her – you must change your mindset. If romantic love leaves you cold with this person, think of it as play, and try not to attach emotion to it. Get some toys. Watch some erotica together. You may be surprised that lust returns more quickly than you thought it could.
2. Has the air simply gone out of the balloon? I.e. were you once passionate, and now it’s flat? If that’s the case, start with honesty with your partner. Tell him/her you want to get it back. If you have been pretending to be content, stop. Be honest. See what ideas the two of you can work out to revive the intimacy. When you tell the truth, anything wonderful can happen. Trust builds. You listen to each other. You will be amazed at the plethora of ideas you two have. On the other hand, if you can’t do it by yourselves, see a professional relationship coach, or sex coach. It may only take one or two sessions to give you the ideas you need to get the fires going, again.
As I have said many times, YOU have to WANT lust to return. It won’t happen by magic. You may have to work on it, but it’s well worth your effort. Don’t give up. Yougottawannawanna.
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