The question was asked this way: I read all about dildos and vibrators, got 2 of them, still do not use them well. Help!
Vibrators and dildos are play toys. Like any toy, some will attract you, others won’t. Vibrators and dildos are great toys for both men and women, but they aren’t necessary for good sex or lovemaking. Don’t order them online unless you have read a good review by someone who knows the product (like us at Get A Second Wind – we will be reviewing products in the Firestarter Store [coming July 1 , 2009]). For women, everyone’s clitoris is different – in looks and sensitivity. You may need a hard vibration, or a gentle one. Experiment with your own hands, first, to see what you like. If you are buying a dildo, get an average size – the larger ones will feel cold and uncomfortable if you are just beginning. For men, if the dildo or vibrator is used for anal sex, get a small, slender, shorter size that can be lubricated thoughly and easily. For both men and women, DON’T get fancy products. Start basic and enjoy that stimulation, first. Use them gently. ALWAYS WASH THEM THOROUGHLY WHEN YOU ARE FINISHED.
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