How do I teach my partner to enjoy kissing?

Little by little. Good kissing is an art – it doesn’t happen automatically. Your concern is very common: He slobbers when we kiss. She won’t open her lips. He presses too hard. She crams her tongue down my throat. He opens his mouth too wide, and I want to laugh. She avoids kissing me. He tastes funny. She gets lipgloss all over me. He thinks he should kiss like the men in erotica and I hate it … The list goes on and on. Some people need to be taught. It’s like getting over the fear of flying. It’s one baby step at a time. Start by the golden rule of sex: communicate. Tell him/her that you love being kissed in a certain way, and you want to show him/her. DON’T tell them they are nasty kissers! Just begin slowly… This is how I love to touch my lips with yours … This is how I like to hold my head … This is the pressure that turns me on … This is what I love to have you do with your tongue. After they know what you LIKE, go to step 2 (at another time): Here’s what turns me off: This is too hard… This is too soft … This is too much tongue for me (or I like more tongue than this) … This is too deep. Improvement only comes when you talk about it. It may take several conversations, but don’t give up. The ego will get out of the way after awhile. And there is this: Don’t forget to ask your partner what they like in kissing. You may be surprised to find some titillating answers.

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