Do you remember what Napoleon wrote to Josephine just before his arrival back in Paris? He begged her not to bathe for 3 days. Ah, the scent (and taste) of a woman. Too bad all partners don’t feel that way. At Sex on the Porch, I received an anonymous question about the scent and taste of a woman during oral sex.
What if your partner doesn’t like your taste? I have heard this concern more than once.
Let me tell you this: our partner’s preference (or not) for our taste and our smell is as individual as the preference for everything else in our lives that we smell and taste – the wine we choose, the cheese we prefer, the variety of meat in the oven. How we taste during oral sex is different for each woman. There is no better taste, no worse taste.
As we reach midlife, our tastes can intensify. Our smells are different than our younger years. Thank goodness we don’t have much more longer (or are already past) having periods that may have made us feel unclean.
I will quickly add that most partners are not put off by our odors and flavors. In fact, they find their special person’s vaginal aroma and taste to be an aphrodisiac at any age, just as Napoleon did. Having said that, what can we do if our partner is put off by our smell or taste?
Check out what’s off putting about it. Maybe they need to understand that the vulva and vagina are actually very clean places to hang out, even without bathing. Washing up just before sex might reduce some of the natural odors. (Don’t douche unless a doctor suggests it. First of all, it tastes terrible immediately afterward. And, it violently interrupts the Ph balance.) Be sure a yeast infection is not at work. Talk to your partner before you set out on your sexual escapade. Possibly, he/she doesn’t like performing cunnilingus in the first place!
I’m all for natural tastes and smells, personally. We are ‘way over worried about odors in our Western culture. Tastes and scents are quickly covered with Rose, Peach, Cinnamon, Vanilla. Even our personal lubricants are flavored to mask the taste. None of them truly taste like the real fruit they represent, anyway, much like auto odor sprays smell nothing like the fragrance on the bottle. And, the types of food we eat don’t influence our taste very much, either. Some say garlic and gin make a difference. If so, the difference is minor.
Here’s a man who truly appreciates the scent (and taste) of a woman. Lt. Col. Frank Slade (Al Pucino) in the 1992 movie, Scent of A Woman. :
“Ooh, but I still smell her. [inhales deeply through nose} Women! What can you say? Who made ‘em? God must have been a fuckin’ genius. The hair… They say the hair is everything, you know. Have you ever buried your nose in a mountain of curls… just wanted to go to sleep forever? Or lips… and when they touched, yours were like… that first swallow of wine… after you just crossed the desert. Tits. Hoo-ah! Big ones, little ones, nipples staring right out at ya, like secret searchlights. Mmm. Legs. I don’t care if they’re Greek columns… or secondhand Steinways. What’s between ‘em… passport to heaven. I need a drink. Yes, Mr Sims, there’s only two syllables in this whole wide world worth hearing: pussy. Hah! Are you listenin’ to me, son? I’m givin’ ya pearls here.”
Yes, that’s it. Our taste, and our scent is something to be savored.
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